Wednesday, December 16, 2009

The Cab Ride

I know this is Gus' Blog site, but I received this from a friend and thought it was worth sharing with you all.  I hope you find it "touching" especially in light of all that is happening right now.

Take Care, Lloyd


The Cab Ride

I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I walked to the door and knocked..... 'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.

After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940's movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.

There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.

She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.

She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her... 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated'.

'Oh, you're such a good boy', she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, 'Could you drive through downtown?'

'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly..

'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice'.

I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued in a soft voice.. 'The doctor says I don't have very long.' I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.

'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator..

We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.

Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired. Let's go now'.

We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.

Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

'How much do I owe you?' she asked, reaching into her purse.

'Nothing,' I said

'You have to make a living,' she answered.

'There are other passengers,' I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly......

'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said.
'Thank you.'

I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life..

I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought.. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk.. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift?
  What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.

We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.

But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID ~BUT~THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Moving Into Our New Space


Hey there!!! Hope you all have having a wonderful time preparing for the Holidays!!!  What a great time of year.

It is really busy around the Psychological Services/EAP Department these days.  Lloyd and the rest of the gang are settling into their new space.  I hear I'm getting my own office, but Lloyd is way slow in preparing it for me.  He says that you all are "more important".  I would agree, but I think that he could spend just a little more time getting my space ready to have guests!

Anyway, please come by the new clinic Thursday December 17th from 3:00-5:30.  Our new clinic is located in Dr. Terry's old space:  1300 N 7th Suite 4.  It is on the corner of 7th and Bunting.

Hope to see you all there - there will dog biscuits - I mean cookies and punch as well as a great door prize.

Take care of yourself!
Gus

Friday, October 9, 2009

Anti-Spinning!

Hey there all!!

I caught Lloyd reading this next piece that was written by his daughter, Sarah as part of her school blog. She is attending CU and will graduate this spring. I do hope you enjoy reading it as I think Lloyd is very proud of her and thought this had tons to say about our lives at Community Hospital and health care in general.

Take care of yourself!

Gus

In my last of FIVE academic advising appointments this week, my advisor, calmly looking over my schedule and graduation requirements, asked me an interesting question. Amidst “Do you participate in any clubs?”, “What are your plans after graduation?” and “You know you have to take a test for that, right?”, she slowly looked up at me and pointedly asked, “How is your head not spinning?”
Half joking, I responded by telling her that it indeed IS spinning and that I am just an amazing actress. She did not, however, find this to be as amusing as I hoped and proceeded to lecture me for 20 minutes on the value of “downtime” and “asking for help.” Mostly because this lady was now on the verge of making me late for work, but also because – as most of you know – “asking for help” often makes me lightheaded, I did not exactly receive her message with open arms. In the last moments of the conversation, as she tapped her pencil on my knee to re-grab my attention (OH NO SHE DIDN’T), she said it: “You know, Sarah, you can’t do everything. And even if you’re going to be stubborn and try, you need to figure out a way to get your head to stop spinning.”
Deprived of sleep AND caffeine, my initial reaction was to politely (and yet, obviously combatively) tell her that “Thank you, but I already have one mother. And she’s prettier AND nicer than you.” Miraculously I was able to resist this temptation, and my real mother will be glad to hear that I instead shook her hand, insisted I was late and really must go, and flashed a warm smile.
For the rest of the day, however, I could not get this woman out of my head. After a few cups of coffee I realized that maybe – just maybe – a small part of what she said was true. We all need things from time to time that “stop our heads from spinning,” and perhaps I haven’t exactly been dutiful in finding those “things.” At least that’s what I thought on Friday.
Then came Saturday…which, I’m glad to report, was perfect. It started simply – with a screaming alarm clock at 7am, with yogurt and granola, with green tea, with laced up running shoes, and a fully charged iPod. The weather was beautiful, and the town even more so. Leaves are changing, the air is chilly and crisp, and at 7:30 am, the hoards of obnoxiously stupid college kids are at bay. It was in the first 10 minutes of my run that I re-discovered one of those anti-spinning “things” : Boulder Creek. Running along this path is nothing short of a moment of “zen”. As I ran past fly fishermen, full strollers, drenched dogs, and fellow early-morning exercisers, I could feel my head clearing stride by stride. The spinning was starting to slow.

At the end of my run, legs numb, chest pounding, I found myself in the middle of one of my favorite places in the entire world: the saturday morning Boulder farmer’s market. I glanced across the rows of tents, the tables of food, and the sea of people, and the spinning slowed a little more. In what I can only attribute to an act of God, I remembered that I had stuffed 10 dollars in my iPod armband, just in case. Ahhh, let the grocery shopping being. Apples, Tomatoes, Bread, Tortillas, and a smattering of free samples later, my job was done. Arms full of goodies, I began the trek back home as I intently munched on what can only be described as THE BEST APPLE IN THE ENTIRE WORLD. The spinning slowed a little bit more .
When I found myself home, standing in our front yard, I realized what a productive day it had already been. It wasn’t productive because I had read or even opened any text books, or because I had written a essay or a personal statement, but because I had allowed life to get quiet for a while. The stress melted, the spinning stopped, and the contentment settled it…not because of any great event or because I had gone out of my way to escape obligations and commitments, but rather because I tuned out all the noise for just a few hours and let only the most important things filter through.
So to answer your question, Ms. Psychology Advisor, it’s early morning runs, the boulder creek path, farmers markets, and apples. That’s how I keep my head from spinning.
Cheers
-S.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Family and "Imperfections"

Ok, it's been way too long since Lloyd has let me near the computer. But, I've finally pushed and barked my way enough to have sometime alone on the keyboard.

Lloyd got this video from a dear friend and when I saw the tears in his eyes I just knew I had to share it with you. You all probably have people in your life that are precious to you. But when you think about them I'll bet you don't think about their "imperfections". Please watch and remember those people who's imperfections make your life perfect.



Take care of yourselves!

Gus

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

We've MOVED!!!!



Lloyd and I have moved into our new office. We would love to have you come over and visit us. There are two GREAT new people that are moving into our office with us. Their names are Shan Mixon - the new EAP therapist and Jerry Colby - the new SBIRT Health Educator. Plus... Melissa Wens is our new administrative assistant. She is a great addition and really keeps Lloyd organized!!

Lloyd promised me that they wouldn't take up too much space in the clinic as I am really enjoying the extra room to roam around in.

Shan and Jerry will be at the open house March 5th from 2-6:00. I do hope you can come over and see us. Our new address is 1019 N. 12th Suite G - it is right behind the Brewery across from Community Hospital.

I asked Lloyd to put in some new pictures of me in our new place. Hope you enjoy!

Take care of yourselves!! Gus

Monday, February 2, 2009

Are you a Carrot, Egg or a Coffee Bean???

I ran across this in Lloyd's archive of interesting information. It looked good and thought I'd share it with all of you. Let me know what you think! Take care of your self. Gus

Carrots, Eggs, or Beans! A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," her daughter replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked. "What's the point, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity-boiling water-but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat?

Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a break-up, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

How do you handle Adversity? ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Some new Pictures






Lloyd and I and our family went snowshoeing and cross country skiing over the weekend. I thought you'd like to see some great pictures of me as well as some wonderful winter scenes. These were taken by my favorite photographer, Becca Davis. Hope you enjoy the pictures. Keep posted for more new EAP information! Take care of yourselves! Gus